Why is it important to put things in order in the apartment than dangerous unfinished repairs and they do not need to spend their weekends. Psychologist Maria Merkulova told about the things that rob us of energy, and how to combat them.
In the world there are many things that are literally "eat" our energy. On some of them we know, but there are those, of which we simply do not guess. Psychologist Maria Merkulova told how to deal with non-obvious "eaters" of good mood and well-being.
1. Constant thinking of situations from the past (what would have happened if you were in some kind of situation have acted differently).
What to do : Treat every situation as a learning experience. Draw conclusions from it.When you consider what has happened, you have the opportunity to write a new script in the future to do in similar circumstances correctly. The main thing not to indulge in such thoughts 24 hours a day, here you need to know when to stop.
2. Disorder in the apartment.
What to do : First, do not forget about such a thing, as the division of responsibilities, when each family member clearly knows what he is doing, without any reminders.Designate a specific day for general cleaning, and then got up from the bed in the morning, everyone will know exactly who is doing what.
Another option: every day you remove some of the apartments. Today - the bathroom, tomorrow - the kitchen, etc. But this approach does not preclude the allocation of responsibilities.
By the way, cleaning - a great way to feel control over their lives as the result is achieved quickly, and you will automatically start to think that they can get it in other areas too.
3. Lack of hobbies, interests, hobbies, joy in life, even the most insignificant.
What to do : very often I hear the phrase "I have no time to do it during the week." And actually very helpful to turn these most weekdays on weekends - make on Monday (every other day) is something that you would normally do in a weekend. Go with a friend in a cafe, on a date, just take a walk, buy a gift, etc. There is no need to restrict their lives route home-work-home.
4. Resentment, anger at someone from the environment.
What to do : you have to work through that feeling. You can go to psychotherapy and to discuss with someone the matter and ask the other person how he coped with a similar situation. When we let go of the problem, do not keep the negative energy within ourselves, we have a vision for the future.
5. Unfinished business.
What to do : break all the cases into three categories: "very important" that needs to be done in the near future. "Important," but they can be postponed for a certain period."Never mind", do you plan to make them in the future. Proceed with each category in turn.
If you have any difficulty doing things, ask yourself: What bothers me, and that can help in this situation? Let's say you have no time, then just select the day in the diary and write to a specific task. When you strike out the next item from the list of cases, you will feel a burst of energy.
6. Things, souvenirs, clothing, photos of former lovers.
What do all these things if you do not need to throw away, but at least clean out of sight. However, such measures should be applied only when you past very frustrating. For example, when one look at the photo, ring from ex-husband, etc. you shrink the heart, I want to cry, etc. If anything like that you do not feel, you can safely delete the item.
7. Equipment that needs to be repaired, broken things in the house, shattered the door handle, who quit plinth, dripping faucet, etc. And also not brought to the end of the repair.
What to do : the broken stuff and equipment like a splinter. She did not seem to hurt, but if it hurt, trouble begins. In fact, this is the unfinished business.
For example, you have shattered the door handle. Whenever you have to touch her, she falls, and you put it back. Of course, nothing but irritation such actions do not cause.Make all the household stuff to your calendar and address them as soon as possible.
As for the repair, many designers are advised not to stretch it, otherwise there is a risk you will never reach the final. It is better to buy cheaper materials or wait wallpaper from Italy two months, and buy the ones that are available at the moment, the main thing to bring it started to end.
8. School homework your child that you are doing with them.
What to do : ideally, parents should love to pamper their children, talk to them. Lessons are best left to the teacher hired, some special person. It is advisable not grandmother, otherwise you will be constantly involved in the process.
For example, to hire teachers coming not. You have to assign the function itself.Remember that the lessons does your child and you just help him. No need to stand on a child, to do everything for it, give it more independence. Include control over some period of time. Opened task with a child and then leave. After about 20 minutes, you can check the draft and discuss the error. Allow the student to perform its main function - training activities.
9. Output in large shopping centers.
What to do : do not need to spend on such "fun" day. Tired men, crowds and screaming kids just do not add a good mood. If you need to purchase products or to buy a thing, do it and go on about their business. Do not idly walk from store to store, as in the evening you will feel overwhelmed. In general, attacks in the shopping center must be dosed - since there are plenty of other ways to diversify their leisure.
10. Feeling that for his exploits at work you do not get adequate remuneration.
What to do : money - power. Anyone who feels good only when it is invested in some business knowledge, skills, time, emotions and receives all similar in terms of remuneration. If you invest more than it receives in response to - think. Perhaps the time has come when you need to talk this through with the guidance previously making a list of their achievements and success in this position. Or maybe you just need to change jobs.
11. Communication only with members of their own sex.
What to do if a woman at work and outside of work surround only the fair sex - this is not good. Masculine energy have to be. On the opposite sex the same situation.
12. Lack of sleep, sex, physical activity.
What to do if you've been going to enroll in a gym, but it never moved off dead center, will gather in a fist and realize our plans. Dream - also an important component, its deficiency is reflected on your emotions and on the weight of (those who sleep little, likely to be overweight).
13. Setting.
What to do : energy is usually taken by people who love to complain about life. They just do what they whine. Do you think you have to wait for the board, gives him and waiting for that man followed the recommendations, the situation will change. But this is not happening. As a result, you do not get satisfaction from their assistance.
Try not to give your friend a long discussion of issues (colleagues). Do not participate in them emotionally. Try to translate the dialogue at any neutral topics that may be of interest to you.
Also note one thing: when you are in the thousandth time someone complains about her husband, children, a job, which means that a person can not cope with the existing problems. Apparently, he needs professional help. But such assistance provided by professionals, not you.&n
In the world there are many things that are literally "eat" our energy. On some of them we know, but there are those, of which we simply do not guess. Psychologist Maria Merkulova told how to deal with non-obvious "eaters" of good mood and well-being.
