My relationship with Rachelle is very anti-fragile. Even when one or both of us is at our worst or when theres a lot of turmoil going on around us, theres little risk to our relationship. We can say or do the stupidest things, and we still stick like glue. We have plenty of freedom to&

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Now that Ive been food logging for 15+ weeks straight, the simple practice of writing down what I eat each day has made me want to revisit another practice: time logging. Ive done time logging before and have found it useful, but I dont think Ive ever done it for more than a week or&

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For the month of August, Ive been doing a new dietary experiment. Im eating grain-free, legume-free, and sugar-free. Im doing this mainly out of curiosity to see what effect it has. I think Im far enough along (about four weeks) that this would be a good time to share what Ive learned. The biggest adjustment&

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I often get asked what I eat as a vegan, so Ill share one of my favorite breakfasts that Ive been enjoying lately. Ive eaten this simple meal for most days of the month. Previously I would typically have steel cut oatmeal for breakfast, but this month Im doing a 30-trial of eating grain-free, legume-free,&

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One issue that would sometimes arise in our old public discussion forums could be described as admin baiting. This is when some members assert the right to ask an administrative question, challenge a community rule or its application, or challenge an admin decision – by posting a message in the forum community for all to&

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Its good to be aware of the potential risk of framing yourself into a corner when youre faced with a tricky situation. Suppose youre in a relationship, and you catch your partner kissing someone else. How do you frame that situation? It may depend on the details of course, like the type of kiss or&

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Today I finished Ibram X. Kendis book Stamped From the Beginning, which is about the history of racist ideas in the USA. I found it insightful and eye-opening, and it gave me some meaningful perspective shifts on racism. Im glad I read this book after White Fragility because the former book was much more lightweight,&

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Many of my journal entries take the form of conversations, similar to a discussion, debate, or interview between two parties. Most often I use the interview approach. I play one role, usually as myself. I assign the other role to a different perspective, such as my future self, the universe, or the spirit of a&

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After decades of never voting in any election, I finally registered to vote for the first time ever. My registration is nonpartisan. Im not a member of any political party. Some would say that I should have remedied this long ago. Why did I wait so long? Partly Ive been stuck with an old frame&

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I did some reflection in my journal about why I like my life so much. Heres what I came up with: Space for Reflection I like that my life isnt overloaded with so much activity. Sometimes I get really busy, but over the course of a year and during most months of the year, I&

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As Ive gotten older, Ive grown much better at making purchases that I dont regret. This includes clothing, tech, furniture, appliances, and more. When I was younger, I often made poor choices in this area. Heres the key difference. When I was younger, I would basically ask these types of questions when considering purchase options:&

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Recently I was pondering ways to generate ideas that feel more fiery or sparky. I always have a lot of options for what to do next, and its easier for me to feel bored than stressed, so I often want to explore paths that offer some extra stimulation and challenge. Here are the questions I&

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While pondering an update to my mission statement, I was thinking about how to frame relationships, and this line popped into my mind: My relationships are based on play. My relationship with Rachelle fits this like a glove, and I think it’s why we’ve had 10+ happy years together. Same goes for my best friendships.&

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I love immersion days. These are days when I focus on just one type of experience, project, or aspect of life for pretty much the whole day. Immersion days can be personal or professional. Here are some examples: A day of decluttering or cleaning A day at Disneyland A workshop day, either presenting one or&

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Heres an interesting pattern: When people are heading towards a major transition, they often wait for a final straw incident before making a move. In other words they wait until some arbitrary event happens thats good enough to quality as the final reason that pushes them over the edge. So an incident happens at work,&

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Earlier this week I read the book White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo, which is about how resistant white people can be when it comes to discussing and learning about systemic racism. I thought the book had some interesting insights, although it was more academic and less emotional than I expected. I was expecting something punchier&

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Some people claim that actions matter and words alone dont count for much. That philosophy may be popular, but it isnt based in truth. Words matter tremendously. Words are actions, and they absolutely do count – at least as much as any other form of action does. Words influence people. Words create impact, even when&

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This article idea was suggested by a Conscious Growth Club member. After a little reflection, I thought, why not? Ive seen every episode of every non-animated Star Trek series, including the original 1960s classic, The Next Generation, Deep Space Nine, Voyager, Enterprise, Discovery, and the new Picard series. Ive seen many episodes multiple times. Ive&

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In many jobs your working hours are performance hours. Youre expected to do the work that creates value. If youre a programmer, you get paid to program. If youre a lawyer, you get paid to help people solve legal problems. But in some jobs, performance is just a small slice of paid time on the&

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One wonky way that people try to apply the Law of Attraction is by attempting to bypass an unpleasant confrontation. Instead of attracting what they want, theyre partly trying to skip over what they dont want. Examples include trying to avoid: a difficult break-up conversation with a relationship partner firmly clarifying boundaries with a friend&

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