Yesterday I was conversing with Rachelle about how to communicate with someone who has what you might call lower than average emotional and social intelligence but is otherwise extremely bright. (Its not a member of this community by the way, and our interactions are normally short and infrequent.) Rachelle noted that he, seems to have&

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Visualizing your goals can be helpful, but dont limit your visualizations to the same types of scenes youre accustomed to seeing with your eyes. Your mind is a lot more powerful than your eyeballs. Note also that your visual cortex is only about 0.5% of your brain. Consider what more is possible if you could&

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In the early days of Netflix (late 1990s), they ran a promotion to get a particular DVD for only two cents. However, a mixup occurred when the freshly printed DVDs were picked up from the replicating service. At least one of the spindles they picked up contained porn DVDs instead of the intended content. None&

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A purposeful life and career path doesnt usually show up all at once. You create it over time by incrementally leaning into experiences that feel more meaningful and purposeful. Its a lifetime pursuit. Disappointment is your friend here. Where have you been dissatisfied with some part of your life that wasnt meaningful enough? Identify where&

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For quite a while my home state of Nevada was seeing less than 200 new coronavirus cases per day. Then the casinos, bars, and many other local businesses were allowed to reopen. I soon saw the stats creeping up to 300-400 new cases per day& then to 500-1000 per day. Now were around 1400 new&

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After youve decided to move on from partial matches in some area of life and youve declared your standards raised henceforth, you can still relapse. The old habits can seduce you back. This is incredibly common. People usually do relapse one or more times before they strongly lock into a new standard of behavior. You&

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Its tempting to try to keep your options open. People often assume that having more options is equivalent to having more freedom. But actually the opposite tends to be true when it comes to making aligned decisions. When you keep your options too open, you keep your standards too low. When people have too many&

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A partial match is basically a 7 out of 10 (or lower) – where you get much of what you want, but at least one significant aspect is missing. Partial matches include: Finding a relationship partner that you like and respect as a person but arent physically attracted to Getting a job that pays well&

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One of the key lessons of the Submersion course is to keep reminding yourself that more is possible. Theres a massive world of possibility beyond your limited range of experience. Within this possibility space are solutions to all of your problems. There are life-altering experiences that you havent even fathomed yet. This world of possibility&

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Now and then I like to ask myself: Wheres the FIRE? Other variations on this question include: Wheres the fun? Wheres the energy? Wheres the fear? Wheres the spark? Wheres the trepidation? Wheres the explosiveness? Wheres the Do Not Enter sign? Where are the dragons? Wheres the passion? Wheres the excitement? Wheres the liveliness? Wheres&

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Youve probably seen plenty of examples of values that you dont respect or admire in the world lately. What about the values you do admire though? Do you praise and encourage them when you see them? Here are some values I admire that I like to praise and encourage when I see them in others.&

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Whether a change is a setback or an opportunity depends on your framing. Suppose you lose a job or leave a relationship. Is that a setback or a step up? I think its really a framing challenge – which frame will you predominantly choose? Financially a job loss may look like a setback, and other&

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Volume 3 of the Ebook version of the Deep Abundance Integration course is now published to that courses portal. All DAI participants will find a link to this bonus on the courses Gifts page, so you can download it now or read it online. Its yours to keep. This new volume covers lessons 21-30, and&

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I made some offers to reality this year that it declined. My declined offers included planned trips to Portland, Northern Ireland, Scotland, Milwaukee, Chicago, and Costa Rica. If the original plans held up, Rachelle and I would be embarking on about 30 days of travel starting later this month, including two wonderful multi-day events with&

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One thing I love about writing is that its a way to process ideas, so they dont get stuck in my mind. Writing moves and transforms thought patterns by taking ideas on a journey from one place to another. After writing about an idea, that idea will no longer be mentally stored in the same&

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If you feel like youre being held back from advancing in some area of life, consider that you may be correct. Lets suppose that something is holding you back. Can you identify what that something is? Is some person or group of people getting in your way? Is a physical issue with your body slowing&

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You can make a lot of interesting personal growth gains by studying yourself and your own responses instead of trying to follow someone elses behavioral prescriptions. Studying yourself is especially useful in the areas of health and productivity habits. What actually creates good results for you? Quite often youll find that what works best for&

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In light of the virus situation, is it time to consider a career or business change? For many people this is a good time to rationally re-evaluate your opportunities – instead of merely hoping that things will magically turn around. Hope is not a good career or business strategy. Many restaurant and retail workers, for&

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Some sources used to say that it takes 21 days to form a new habit, which most people are likely to find overly optimistic. Even 30 days is on the optimistic side. The truth is that the time to install a new habit depends on the person, the habit, the environment, and the motivation. How&

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Since I live in a very hilly neighborhood, my morning runs are basically hill training. There are many routes I can run, but the main question for choosing a route is when to do the uphill and downhill portions. If I do the uphill first, its harder starting out, but then the second half is&

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