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Ïîíåäåëüíèê, 03 Èþíÿ 2024 ã. 19:20 (ññûëêà)
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Àìåðèêàíñêèé ñåñêñîëîã Àëüôðåä Êèíñè ïðîâåë èññëåäîâàíèå, êîòîðîå äîëæíî áûëî ïîêàçàòü âîñïðèÿòèå ïîëàìè äðóã äðóãà áåç àêòèâíîãî âëèÿíèÿ ñîöèàëüíîé ñîñòàâëÿþùåé. Èññëåäîâàíèå ïðîâîäèëîñü â òå÷åíèè ïÿòè ëåò è îõâàòèëî îêîëî 12 000 ìóæ÷èí è æåíùèí. Åãî ðåçóëüòàòû îêàçàëèñü íàñòîëüêî íåîæèäàííûìè, ÷òî áûëè çàïðåùåíû äëÿ ïóáëèêàöèè â øèðîêîé ïå÷àòè, à ïðè ïðåçèäåíòñòâå Áèëëà Êëèíòîíà áûëî ïðåäïðèíÿòî èõ èçúÿòèå èç áèáëèîòåê. Êèíñè ïðèøåë ê âûâîäó, ÷òî ÷åì áîëåå ïðèìèòèâíî ñîçíàíèå, òåì áîëüøå îíî ñòðåìèòñÿ ê ðåàëèçàöèè èíñòèíêòà äîìèíèðîâàíèÿ, à çíà÷èò ìåíüøå ðàçâèâàåòñÿ èíòåëëåêò. ×åì ìåíüøå ðàçâèò èíòåëëåêò, òåì ìåíüøå òàêîå ñîçíàíèå èçó÷àåò ðåàëüíîñòü, à èç-çà íåçíàíèÿ áîèòñÿ åå. Ñîçíàíèå æåíùèíû çàòî÷åíî íà âûïîëíåíèå ïîëíîñòüþ íåèíòåëëåêòóàëüíîé ðàáîòû — ðîæäåíèÿ è âîñïèòàíèÿ ðåáåíêà. Ìîçã æåíùèíû ïîîùðÿåò ïîëó÷åíèå óäîâîëüñòâèÿ îò òàêîé äåÿòåëüíîñòè è çàïðåùàåò åé êàêîå-ëèáî ðàçâèòèå. Ïîýòîìó îò æåíùèíû ìîæíî óâèäåòü èìèòàöèþ èíòåëëåêòà, íî íå åãî íàëè÷èå. Íàïðèìåð, â ðàçãîâîðå âìåñòî êîíêðåòíîãî íàçûâàíèÿ ïðè÷èííî-ñëåäñòâåííûõ ñâÿçåé æåíùèíà ïðèáåãàåò ê èñïîëüçîâàíèþ àáñòðàêòíûõ òåðìèíîâ, ãäå êàæäûé ìîæåò íàéòè ñìûñë. Ïî ýòîìó æå ïðèíöèïó ïîñòðîåíà õðèñòèàíñêàÿ ðåëèãèÿ, ãäå àáñòðàêòíàÿ áàíàëüíîñòü âûäàåòñÿ çà ãåíèàëüíîñòü. Íàïðèìåð, «ëþáàÿ ïå÷àëü ïðîéäåò» ïðèìåíèìî êî âñåì ñèòóàöèÿì, íî íè÷åãî ãåíèàëüíîãî òóò íåò, ñåëè òîëüêî òû íå ïîëíûé äåáèë ñ ðîæäåíèÿ.
Êèíñè âûÿñíèë, ÷òî æåíùèíà âîñïðèíèìàåò ìóæ÷èíó êàê íàìíîãî áîëüøóþ öåííîñòü, ÷åì îíà ñàìà. Ìóæ÷èíà æå æåíùèíó êàê öåííîñòü íå âîñïðèíèìàåò âîîáùå. Êîãäà æåíùèíà âèäèò íà óëèöå ìóæ÷èíó, òî åñòü íàõîäèòñÿ â ñèòóàöèè áåç îïîðû íà ìíîãî÷èñëåííûå ñîçäàííûå äëÿ íåå ñîöèàëüíûå èíñòèòóòû, îíà áîèòñÿ íà÷àòü çíàêîìñòâî ñ íèì, òàê êàê áóêâàëüíî âîñïðèíèìàåò ìóæ÷èíó êàê «áîãà». Æåíùèíà ïîíèìàåò, ÷òî ìóæ÷èíà îáëàäàåò áîëüøèì èíòåëëåêòîì è ñèëîé, òî åñòü ïðèçíàêàìè ýòîãî «áîãà», ÷åì îíà ñàìà. Ýòî îòíîøåíèå íåâåðáàëüíî ïðîÿâëÿåòñÿ â òîì, ÷òî ïðè âèçóàëüíîì êîíòàêòå æåíùèíà ñíà÷àëà ñìîðèò íà ìóæ÷èíó, íî ïîòîì îñîçíàâàÿ ñâîþ íè÷òîæíîñòü, ïóãàåòñÿ è ñòàðàåòñÿ óéòè ïîäàëüøå, èçáåæàâ íàêàçàíèÿ çà ñâÿòîòàòñòâî. Ñîáñòâåííîãî ïñèõè÷åñêîãî ðåñóðñà æåíùèíû äëÿ èíèöèèðîâàíèÿ êîíòàêòà ñ ìóæ÷èíîé íå õâàòàåò. Óðîâíè çàâèñòè è ñòðàõà ó æåíùèíû ïåðåä ìóæ÷èíîé íàñòîëüêî âåëèêè, ÷òî äàæå ïðè óñëîâíîì ðàâíîïðàâèè îíà âñå ðàâíî íå âûòÿãèâàåò ðåàëüíîãî êîíòàêòà. Ïîýòîìó ìóæ÷èí íóæíî îïóñòèòü íèæå ïëèíòóñà, è òîëüêî òîãäà æåíùèíà ìîæåò êîíòàêòèðîâàòü ñ ìóæ÷èíîé «íà ðàâíûõ».  êà÷åñòâå ñîçäàííûõ äëÿ æåíùèí ñîöèàëüíûõ èíñòèòóòîâ Êèíñè íàçûâàåò ñâèäàíèÿ, èõ ðàñïîðÿäîê, ñâàäüáó, ðàçâîä, êàôå, ïîäàðêè è ò.ä.
Ìóæ÷èíà âèäèò â æåíùèíå òîëüêî ñåêñóàëüíûé îáúåêò, êîòîðûé îí ìîæåò èñïîëüçîâàòü, à ìîæåò è íå èñïîëüçîâàòü.  ïñèõèêå ìóæ÷èíû íå ôîðìèðóåòñÿ ïðèâÿçàííîñòü ê æåíùèíå — îíà èíòåðåñóåò ìóæ÷èíó òîëüêî â êà÷åñòâå âîçìîæíîé, íî íåîáÿçàòåëüíîé, ñåêñóàëüíîé öåëè, ñ êîòîðîé ìîæíî âçàèìîäåéñòâîâàòü íåñêîëüêî ðàç ïîäðÿä, ïîñëå ÷åãî èíòåðåñ ê íåé ïîëíîñòüþ òåðÿåòñÿ. Ó ìóæ÷èí íå ôîðìèðóåòñÿ òàê íàçûâàåìîé ãîðìîíàëüíîé âëþáëåííîñòè, êîòîðàÿ äëèëàñü áû õîòû áû íåñêîëüêî ìåñÿöåâ, êàê ýòî óòâåðæäàþò ñîâðåìåííûå ôåìèíèñòè÷åñêèå ïñèõîëîãè. Ýòî æå îáóñëîâëèâàåò òî, ÷òî ìóæ÷èíà â ïðèíöèïå ìîæåò îáõîäèòüñÿ áåç ñåêñà. Òî åñòü ñåêñ äëÿ ìóæ÷èíû - ýòî âîçìîæíîñòü, íî íå îáÿçàííîñòü.
Êèíñè ïðèøåë ê âûâîäó, ÷òî åñëè èç èíôîðìàöèîííîãî ïðîñòðàíñòâà óáðàòü âñå ñåêñóàëüíûå êîíòåêñòû, òî è ñàìîãî ñåêñà ôàêòè÷åñêè íå áóäåò. Ñåêñóàëüíîå âëå÷åíèå ó ìóæ÷èí îáóñëîâëåíî âîñïèòàíèåì, à áèîëîãèÿ èãðàåò çäåñü íåçíà÷èòåëüíóþ ðîëü. Ïî åãî ìíåíèþ, èíñòèíêò ñåêñà ó ìóæ÷èí áûë ýâîëþöèîííî ïîäàâëåí íåîáõîäèìîñòüþ ðàáîòû ñ áîëüøèìè îáúåìàìè èíôîðìàöèè. Ñ ìîìåíòà íàäåëåíèÿ æåíùèíû ïðàâàìè â çàïàäíîì îáùåñòâå âåñü ñîöèàëüíûé ìåõàíèçì ðàáîòàåò íà òî, ÷òîáû ïîñòîÿííî ïîääåðæèâàòü ñåêñóàëüíûé èíòåðåñ ê æåíùèíå. Äî ýòîãî âûíóæäåííîå âçàèìîäåéñòâèå ñ æåíùèíîé îáåñïå÷èâàëîñü «êíóòîì» - õðèñòèàíñêèìè ïðàâîâûìè ìåõàíèçìàìè. Åùå ðàííåå ñóùåñòâîâàëè ìíîãî÷èñëåííûå ÿçû÷åñêèå èñòîðèè, êîòîðûå îïèñûâàëè âçàèìîäåéñòâèå ìóæ÷èíû ñ æåíùèíîé.  êà÷åñòâå ñîâðåìåííîãî ïðèìåðà «ïðÿíèêà» Êèíñè ïðîâîäèò àêòèâíóþ ñåêñóàëèçàöèþ ñîçíàíèÿ ìóæ÷èíû ÷åðåç êèíî è ðåêëàìó ñ ìíîãî÷èñëåííûìè îáðàçàìè îáíàæåííîãî æåíñêîãî òåëà.  ÑÑÑÐ, êàê è â ñðåäíåâåêîâüå, ïðèìåíÿëñÿ áîëåå óáîãèé ìåòîäû «êíóòà» - òàê íàçûâàåìûé «íàëîã íà ÿéöà», ââåäåííûé äëÿ òîãî, ÷òîáû ìóæ÷èíû íå æèëè îäíè è ìíîãî÷èñëåííûå «íàäî». Îäíèì èç áîëåå íîâûõ ìåõàíèçìîâ ÿâëÿþòñÿ òàê íàçûâàåìûå ñàéòû çíàêîìñòâ, ãäå ÷åðåç ìíîãîóðîâíåâóþ ñèñòåìó îãðàíè÷åíèé è áîòîâ ó ìóæ÷èí ñîçäàåòñÿ âïå÷àòëåíèå, ÷òî æåíùèíû — ýòî äåôèöèòíûé ðåñóðñ.
The evolutionary reason for the fear of a woman before dating
The American Sesxologist Alfred Kinsey conducted a study that was supposed to show each other's perception without the active influence of the social component. The study was conducted for five years and covered about 12,000 men and women. Its results were so unexpected that it was prohibited for publication in a wide press, and under the presidency of Bill Clinton, their seizure from libraries was undertaken. Kinsey came to the conclusion that the more primitive consciousness, the more it strives to implement the instinct of dominance, which means that intelligence develops less. The less intelligence developed, the less such consciousness is studying reality, and due to ignorance, it is afraid of it. The woman’s consciousness is sharpened to perform completely non -intellectual work - the birth and upbringing of the child. The woman’s brain encourages pleasure from such activities and prohibits her of any development. Therefore, from a woman you can see an imitation of intelligence, but not its presence. For example, in a conversation, instead of a specific naming of causal relationships, a woman resorts to the use of abstract terms, where everyone can find meaning. On the same principle, a Christian religion has been built, where abstract banality is issued as genius. For example, “any sadness will pass” applicable to all situations, but there is nothing ingenious here, you only sat down with birth from birth. Kinsey found out that a woman perceives a man as much greater value than herself. A man does not perceive a woman as a value at all. When a woman sees a man on the street, that is, she is in a situation without a support on the numerous social institutions created for her, she is afraid to begin acquaintance with him, as she literally perceives the man as “God”. The woman understands that a man has great intelligence and strength, that is, signs of this “God” than she is. This attitude does not manifest itself in the fact that with visual contact, the woman first wrinkles on a man, but then realizing her insignificance, scares and tries to go away, avoiding punishment for sacrilege. A woman’s own mental resource is not enough to initiate contact with a man. The levels of envy and fear of a woman in front of a man are so great that even with conditional equality, she still does not draw real contact. Therefore, men need to be lowered below the baseboard, and only then can a woman contact a man “on an equal footing”. As created for women, Kinsey calls the social institutions, their daily routine, wedding, divorce, cafes, gifts, etc. A man sees in a woman only a sexual object that he can use, or may not use. In the psyche of a man, attachment to a woman is not formed - she is interested in a man only as a possible, but optional, sexual goal with which you can interact several times in a row, after which interest in her is completely lost. In men, the so -called hormonal love is not formed, which would last for several months, as modern feminist psychologists say. The same determines that a man, in principle, can do without sex. That is, sex for a man is an opportunity, but not a duty. Kinsey came to the conclusion that if all the sexual contexts are removed from the information space, then there will actually not. Sexual attraction in men is due to education, and biology plays a slight role here. In his opinion, the instinct of sex in men was evolutionarily suppressed by the need to work with large volumes of information. Since the end of the woman’s rights in Western society, the entire social mechanism has been working to constantly maintain sexual interest in a woman. Prior to this, forced interaction with a woman was provided with a “whip” - Christian legal mechanisms. Even early there were numerous pagan stories that described the interaction of a man with a woman. As a modern example, Kinsey conducts an active sexualization of a man’s consciousness through cinema and advertising with numerous images of a naked female body. In the USSR, as in the Middle Ages, a more miserable “whip” was used - the so -called “egg tax”, introduced so that the men do not live the only “necessary”. One of the newer mechanisms is the so -called dating sites, where through a multi -level system of restrictions and bots in men it seems that women are a scarce resource.