Many women wonder if they can get more control over their vaginal muscles, and if they can make themselves tighter. This therefore means that having a loose vagina is not such a bad thing after all, that is provided you end up effectively tightening it because it is the process of effectively tightening it that would give you the ability to learn how to control your pelvic floor muscles.
There are many different types of ben wa balls - from remotely-vibrating ones to ones with adjustable weights inside and even ElectraStim ones that give your vagina little pulsing electric shocks (this is way less painful and far more sexy than it sounds, trust me).





If you are worried about tension, there are two great places to start your pelvic health journey: diaphragmatic breathing and a modified happy baby pose On each inhale feel your diaphragm moving out and up towards your head and your pelvic floor moving down and back towards your feet.
You can add more weight as you find it easier to do this exercise (as well as exercises that use short clenches and relaxations) just remember that you'll get an optimal workout from inserting just one bead and letting the second bead stay outside of your body.

What they are: Part exercise weight for your vagina, part sex toy, Kegel balls come in a variety of shapes, sizes and styles, from the Ben Wa balls made famous by Fifty Shades Darker to the jade eggs made infamous by Gwyneth Paltrow They can be made from stone, stainless steel, plastic or silicone, and come as singles or as pairs to be inserted at the same time.
Studies have shown that this muscle training is actually very effective in preventing and treating incontinence in pregnant women and new mothers.1 Tightened and trained vaginal muscles can also be helpful for women who suffer from light vaginal kegel exercises for tightening leakage, as well as pelvic organ prolapse, caused by the bulging of pelvic organs such as the uterus, bowel or bladder into the vagina.1 They even have sexual benefits too, helping to tighten the vaginal muscles to improve sexual function.
Using lots of water-based lube , gently insert the first ball by pressing it against the opening of the vagina until it slides in. There might be a small length of silicone between the first and second ball, so tuck this inside you and start pressing the second ball against your vaginal opening.

While better sex is certainly a benefit, doctors emphasize that it's not only about that—kegel balls can also help with pregnancy recovery (babies put pressure on your pelvic floor, which weakens those muscles) and especially improve bladder control.
They have been shown to be effective to address pelvic floor issues in women and men associated with urinary incontinence, overactive bladder, and sexual issues wherein women have difficulty experiencing orgasm. Pro-tipOnce you're comfortable with connected Kegel balls, you can take things up a notch by investing in a set of individual Kegel balls (sans string).

Start small and once you feel like your muscles are getting stronger, play around with increasing the weight. I got the largest, heaviest balls because I figured, "GO BIG OR GO HOME." I planned to have a vagina with the strength of Arnold Schwarzenegger in The Terminator years.
With two different metal balls with different weights, you can start with the lighter ball and work your way up to the heavier one. For this reason, Smart Balls are often preferable to Ben Wa Balls if you are inexperienced. Part of the slow build up to the amount of time you wear the SmartBalls for, as well as wearing them around home to start with, is to allow you the time to master the techniques involved in wearing them all day, including going to the toilet.