Couldn't you feel it coming? I believe break-ups don't come suddenly. at least for me... i need a good reason to break-up with someone I love

Yes, they happen suddenly but over the time yes, you are right we accumulate some "negative" things but you know a person who loves is always ready to forgive...I guess just for how long? Right? Patience is not endless. I did too much thinking for the couple of months and you know what-ENOUGH!

hmm... so why are you unhappy if you decided that's enough?
i guess I should ask the same question to myself

Maybe you should.
Sometimes I jsut can't help it. Do I have a right to be sad sometimes...? Just kidding. It is one of this days....Oh, MONDAYS! I almost forgot. How was your day....
You know I jsut invested so much into that relationship that I feel sorry for myself.

i can hear you. conciously I underestand - that's the best way to go, but emotionally... i still have to move on

WEll, thats the hardest part. Normally it takes two months. :) For woman:)

TWO MONTHS???? are you SURE???
And how long is it for a man?

"If you can't get rid of the skeleton in your closet, you'd best teach it to dance."
- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)
I think you can apply this to the emotion move on theory. Basically, you have to cope with it.

My day was OK. Had an exam at a french restaurant. My team won

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"If you can't get rid of the skeleton in your closet, you'd best teach it to dance."
- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)
I think you can apply this to the emotion move on theory. Basically, you have to cope with it.

my problem is - my skeleton doesn't stay in the closet...

Here is another nice quote, lets think....I hope this not annoying....
"If you want to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first create the universe."
- Carl Sagan
So, if you wnat to feel safe and secure in someones arms and emotionally satisfied -create the universe.

that's on my "to do" list :)))

Good!
Bake a fresh pie:))))

i'm just not sure that's true... I believe you can't create love... It either comes to you without even asking for your permission or it doesn't

so you did'n't say how long does it take for a guy to move on

Love is Not invented its often discovered...
To answer to the question about time for man....a little less:)

so you believe one should work on discovering?

a little less... maybe i dated the wrong men. they seemed to need more time

Noah_Brown, /invested/
Hon, I so understand you...
.
Gosh...
I had the same relationship when I invested...
I put myself down, I used to forgive him all the time...why?..
One day I came in US and I said to myself...
I MUST RUN FROM HIM, I WILL NEVER BACK TO RUSSIA...DON'T WANT TO SUFFER.
...that's it...i even don't know...what I lost...
Him, love, myself...
...or...maybe...I found smth?..
Now I know my price.
My feelings cost more.

I didn't know you are commenting here:)Sorry sweety