More and more I am assured how important it is not to react without thinking. I was upset he wouldn't call even though he promised he'd be calling me back but he was very sick and I am glad I didn't say anything about being disappointed. I know he loves me very much.
Another thing: it is impossible to feel remorse and empathize when you are being attacked. I find it when I don't blame people they appologize themselves once they know u got hurt by their words and if they don't they regret it later. Hence no need to compromise yourself and get ugly. Stay cute. ;)