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Aussie rocker Darren Hayes tells Eddie Rowley how his alcoholic dad spurred him on to be a global hit


He’s one of the most successful pop stars in the world, but Savage Garden’s Darren Hayes still carries psychological scars from he’s childhood.Aussie multi-millionaire singer and songwriter Hayes came from a poor background in Brisbane, and suffered at the hands of an abusive, alcoholic father. Now 33, Darren didn’t try alcohol himself until he was 28, and today he’s still a modest drinker.” I was afraid that I’d become the incredible Hulk like my dad if I drank,” he tells SWM.

“I was always afraid that I had and addictive nature and I definitely have. I’m like that with everything, with food…so there was always a danger with drink. As a result, I’m very wary of it,” As he reflects on his upbringing, it’s obvious that Darren ha been deeply hurt by the sins of his father. “Everyone has an issue with a parent, mine was my dad. He was a violent man with drink. Most of my childhood was dealing with domestic violence,” Daren confides. The Truly, Madly, Deeply singer has long since made peace with his father, who has been a reformed alcoholic for 20 years. “I love him to bit today,” Darren reveals. “He is still with my mother and an incredible success story.”

But Darren says the nightmare he experienced during his up-bringing spurred him to success. “My relationship with my dad was probably the single thing that propelled me,” he admits. “I was the youngest kid in a poor family with a turbulent life. I dreamed myself out of Brisbane and into the world. “Though becoming a pop star I got all the love that I felt was missing in my life. I eventually realised that’s the reason I became a performer. “When I look back now on what I’ve achieved, I realise that it was incredible. The luck, the change, the timing all aligned to give me my break in life.”


It all kicked off in 1993 when Daniel Jones placed an ad in a Brisbane paper looking for a singer for his band, Red Edge. Darren spotted it and immediately responded. The following year the pair decided to go it alone as Savage Garden. Two years later Save Garden were number one in Australia with their single, To the Moon and Back. Worldwide fame and incredible wealth followed when they went on to score two one hits in America with Truly, Madly, Deeply and I know I loved you. Despite superstardom, Hayes can still walk the streets without being noticed.” I was never desperate for fame. Maybe at the beginning, but I got over it after six months, I found my joy in the artistry and singing. “I also looked up to people like Bono who have managed to preserve their integrity in the midst of fame.” One of his memorable moments has been an intimate chat with U2 start Bono, “Bono has become this great confessional priest, or this guy who is a counsellor to most rock stars,” Hayes reveals. “I had a chat with him in Australia after we had our first number one. “At the time it was the peak on the boy bands and we were getting comparisons that upset me. “I said that to Bono and he just put me in my place. He said to me, “As long as the music from here (the heart) it will scream louder than all the voices.” He reassured me and gave me inspiration,” Darren is in a long term relationship and says he’s looking forward to one day becoming a dad. “I set up my manager with her husband, and I held their kid when he was just seven minutes old. “They’ve lived with me for the last tow years, so I have a two-year-old in my life and I adore him. “I want to be a parent; it’s so mush more important that what I do for a living. I would give my kid all the love and the toys and anything else in the world, but I’m not sure I could give him a feed at five in the morning.”